How I think about the work
Couples therapy often begins with the visible problem: the affair, the fight, the silence, the blowup, or the decision that suddenly feels urgent. Those problems matter. But they usually sit inside a larger pattern that each partner has helped create and each partner is often suffering inside.
My role is to help slow that pattern down enough that both people can see what is happening. From there, the work becomes more honest and more useful: naming the hurt, understanding the protective moves, and practicing a different way to speak and listen when the stakes feel high.
Couples therapy focus
I work with thoughtful, motivated couples who are willing to look directly at what is not working. Some couples are trying to repair after a major rupture. Some are stuck in cycles of criticism, defensiveness, withdrawal, or escalation. Some still love each other, but feel alone in the relationship.
The work is not about assigning blame or pretending everything can be fixed quickly. It is about creating enough clarity and emotional traction to make better decisions together.
Individual therapy
I also work with individuals, including men who are trying to understand relationship patterns, communicate more directly, manage emotional disconnection, or navigate major life transitions. Individual therapy can be especially useful when relationship stress is touching older themes around identity, attachment, responsibility, or self-worth.